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Women: Divorce Mediation for Moms

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What is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce mediation is an alternative to couples seeking a more amicable and less adversarial path in addressing the issues related to ending their marriage. It is conducted with the help of a trained neutral party who guides the couple as they work to discuss and come to settlement agreements. Mediation is also much less expensive than the traditional divorce process, and it is typically faster as well.

 

The Benefits of Choosing Divorce Mediation as a Mom

Choosing divorce mediation can provide many benefits for a mom during a difficult time. It allows for a higher degree of control, as she and her spouse negotiate directly with the mediator to reach an agreement on all divorce matters. Since there is no adversarial atmosphere or risk of court proceedings, the process can be less emotionally draining and more collaborative. Additionally, mediation is often more cost-effective, as the couple can discuss their options with the mediator in their own home and not incur the costs associated with litigation.

 

Another advantage of mediation is its potential to improve the situation between mom and her spouse after the divorce is finalized. By allowing the couple to calmly deliberate and thoughtfully agree to parental responsibilities and other pressing matters, they can leave the process on better terms and hopefully engage in more effective communication when it comes to parenting their children together.

 

Preparing for Divorce Mediation as a Mom

Divorce mediation can be a positive experience for a mom who is prepared for the process. It is important to take the time to do some research ahead of time, including considering the benefits and drawbacks of mediation, obtaining guidance from a family law attorney, and understanding the legal consequences of settling agreements with the mediator. Additionally, it is helpful to have a general understanding of the issues that must be addressed in a divorce including child support and custody, division of marital assets, and spousal maintenance.

 

Finding the Right Divorce Mediator

When a mom is ready to take the next step, it is important to find the right divorce mediator. A mediator should be a trained and experienced professional who is knowledgeable in the relevant laws and understands the individual and family needs involved in the process. It is also beneficial to find a mediator who is patient and unbiased, as these qualities will help to ensure a much more successful negotiation process.

 

An Example Conversation

Kim Dealing With Divorce

Kim is facing the difficult challenge of dealing with a divorce. In her current midst is Jen, a mediator who has been hired to help give her knowledge and guidance to find the best possible solutions for everyone involved. Kim and Jen have agreed upon a discussion that will cover aspects of child custody, alimony, child support, divorce, division of assets, maintaining boundaries, and staying safe during the divorce.

 

Child Custody

One of the primary considerations for Kim is the decisions regarding child custody. Jen explains that in most cases, the court will attempt to make decisions that are in the best interests of the children. That may be based on having one parent have more substantial custody, or even full custody, depending on the current living arrangements and the willingness of the other parent. It is important that there be a healthy balance between both parents.

 

Alimony

Another issue that Kim and Jen discuss is alimony. Depending on the agreements between the parties, Kim may receive alimony or possibly alimony payments to assist in with cost of raising the two children. In some cases, like that of Kim's, alimony payments are based on the income disparity between the two parties, or the disparity of their education levels.

 

Child Support

Kim and Jen also discuss the need for child support payments. In most cases, the parents will negotiate an agreement between them, or it can be set by the court depending on the situation. Where the payments are agreed upon between the parents, there is usually a greater compliance rate paying the payments.

 

Divorce

In their discussion, Kim and Jen move on cover the overall process of divorce. Jen talks about the various options available to those who wish to make the process easier, such as mediation and arbitration. She explains that having an experienced mediator can help tremendously in keeping the process moving in an amicable manner, allowing the parties to make decisions before the court has to weigh in. This can save time and money in the process.

 

Asset Division

Kim asks Jen about how assets are handled in a divorce. Jen explains that in most cases, assets are divided equitably, meaning half to one party and the other half to the other. In other situations, it can be a process of negotiation between the parties. The goal is always to reach an agreement that will satisfy both parties.

 

Maintaining Boundaries

Kim wants to know what she can do to maintain proper boundaries with her children and her soon to be ex-husband. Jen stresses the importance of setting clear boundaries with everyone involved in the divorce process. She explains that this can be a difficult process as emotions may run high, but maintaining those boundaries is important in the long run. It is important to communicate amongst yourselves and strive to find a common ground that can be beneficial to everyone.

 

Staying Safe

Finally, Kim and Jen move on to discussing ways that Kim and her children can stay safe during the divorce process. Jen emphasizes the need for communication and openness with everyone involved. She also suggests that Kim and her children exercise self-care, such as engaging in activities that promote calmness and self-confidence. She explains that discernment is key in determining which surroundings and activities are safe and which should be avoided. At the end of the discussion, Kim and Jen thank each other for their candidness and willingness to talk. Kim is thankful for Jen's input on the topics of child custody, alimony, child support, divorce, division of assets, maintaining boundaries, and staying safe during the divorce process. Jen is able to provide Kim with all the information she needs, giving her a good start for her journey through the divorce process.

 

Conclusion

Divorce is an incredibly difficult transition, but with the guidance of a divorce mediator, a mom can take control of her future and move forward in a positive direction. Such a transition can be made much more manageable by taking time to prepare, researching the benefits of mediation, and most importantly, finding the right professional to guide her and her spouse through the process.

 

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Warning:  This post is neither financial, health, legal, or personal advice nor a substitute for the advice offered by a professional. These are serious matters, and the help of a professional is recommended as it can impact your future.

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